Take a deep breath, sit back and think about these questions: Do you feel good about yourself when you are being selfish? Do you tend to put your own needs before others? They say, “It’s more blessing to give than to receive”.
It’s really hard for someone to understand how one can become selfish as it is the other person performing the task at hand. An act of selflessness is giving someone or donating items such as money or clothes without being asked why. There is a really big difference between people giving because they feel good about it and those that do so but do not want to. Without a doubt there are those who have lived up to our expectations and went out of their ways to be selfless. These people are the likes of Gandhi and Mother Theresa. They have lived a life considered by society whereby they have sacrificed themselves for the good of others and continued to inspire us daily.
I am sceptical but the fact that whether most of us help others consistently without expecting any rewards. On the other hand, when we do good deeds we expect to feel good about ourselves and put the negative feelings aside. A selflessness service is that of a soldier who dies protecting his own troop.
Perhaps, in order to be selfless we need to be selfish. I realise that saying no can be the hardest thing anyone has to overcome on a daily basis. It ain’t easy until you have been in their shoes. The commitment pile is like a ton of bricks and you are drowning in seemingly never ending tasks. Being selfish means that you sometimes take the time to enjoy your passion like indulging in a good book, spending quality time with your loved ones, skydiving and gathering thoughts.
Selfish is a word that has negative connotations. With the emphasis on helping others we need to tend to our own needs of making ourselves happy.No one is entirely selfish but we are all just in between. It’s okay to give back but at times we have to learn to be selfish in order to survive. Most of us don’t realise that we are selfish until the damage is done. At some point in time we have all bolted our doors when it comes to having our own space invaded. What we don’t realise is that we need to make room in order to invite our loved ones rather than pushing them away.
A piece of advice is when we want help from others and realise there is no-one we need to turn to those whom we refused to open up to. Remember there is a fine line between being selfless and selfish.